Dynamics of ADVICE

BIG IDEA: Making Big Decisions is Hard!! Let me just admit something out front… “I suck at making big decisions.”

No one is meant to make life’s biggest decisions alone, but so often we do. It is one of the key functions of the Church to come alongside fellow believers and help them process through these huge decision.

The church should be the experts in giving godly, gospel-centered advice to those in the process of seeking God’s will in any decision. We need to get back to this important dynamic.

Through Jesus and his Spirit dwelling in us, we are a part of the family of God. What does this mean? What should the church, when healthy, naturally do and look like? This series helps us consider what scripture says about healthy dynamics within the Church. We want to ask of our own family here at Sideris, how are we doing and how can we be even more faithful to our calling as a local representation of the universal family of God?

SCRIPTURE: Isaiah 30:20-21

And though the Lord give you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction, yet your Teacher (the Lord) will not hide himself anymore, but your eyes shall see your Teacher. And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.


Two broad ends of the spectrum

  1. “HOLD TILL HOT” meaning we wait until the very last moment to say “YES” … we hold onto the decision until it is too hot to hold on any longer without being burned.
  2. “GO TILL COLD” meaning we always error on the side of movement until we hear or experience a clear “NO.” These folks might even say that making decisions isn’t hard. Just say “Yes” until your decision is shown t o be wrong, then head back.

Both of these are errors in decision-making.

God’s Gift of Advisors

James 1:5 says: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” And how does God bring wisdom? (1) His Word – The Bible (2) Direct inspiration – the Holy Spirit (3)  During Prayer and Meditation (4) Through His People – Family Advisors

Proverbs 19:20 says: “Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.”

Proverbs 11:14 says: “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”

What to look for in advisors? 1. They must be in right relationship to God 2. They must submit to the prompting of the Spirit. 3. They mustn’t be prideful or contentious (i.e. love to argue just to win).

Why Don’t We Seek Christian Advise?

  1. Pleasure: We want what we want more than we want what God wants
  2. Pride: We love our own opinions more than others or even God’s
  3. Fear: It is scary to ask for help and to trust others with our most intimate thoughts

The Assurance: 

Don’t be terrified to make a decision. Seek God’s will through seeking godly gospel-centered counsel, and then trust that God is with you no matter what. God is kinda like the GPS in your car. I believe He does have a specific destination that he is moving you toward – life is not an endless journey, but is leading toward some definite end point – and even though we may make a imperfect decisions along the way, it doesn’t meant that God gives up on us or that we can never make it to our intended destination. Instead, like a good GPS, it may take us a bit longer than it necessarily had to, but God can and does “re-route” us along the way even when we make a decision that leads us away from his will in our lives.


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  1. Who did you turn to in your last big decision?
  2. Did you feel like you were able to connect your motives to the gospel of Jesus Christ?
  3. How will you make your next big decision in light of this dynamic of family life within the church?

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